Those left behind (1/2)

<b style="font-family:Helvetica, Verdana, Arial, sans-serif;font-size:14px;line-height:21px;text-align:center;">#*#*#*#*#*#*#*#*#*#*#*#*#*#*#*#*#*#*#*#*#*#*#*#*#*#"The death is harder on those who are left behind."<b style="font-family:Helvetica, Verdana, Arial, sans-serif;font-size:14px;line-height:21px;text-align:center;">#*#*#*#*#*#*#*#*#*#*#*#*#*#*#*#*#*#*#*#*#*#*#*#*#*#<b style="color:rgb(0,0,0);font-family:arial, Arial, Helvetica;font-size:medium;background-color:rgb(236,245,255);">When a loss hits us,

we have not only the particular loss to mourn

but also the shattered beliefs and assumptions

of what life should be.

These life beliefs must be mourned separately.

Sometimes we must grieve for them first.

We can't grieve the loss if we are in the midst of

"It's not supposed to happen this way" . . .

We intellectually know that bad things happen ~

but to other people, not us,

and certainly not in the world we assumed we were living in . . .